Anger Management

What is Anger?

Anger is a basic but powerful human emotion.

It has kept our species alive over millions of years.

From when you were first born, anger has helped you to express times when your physical or emotional needs were not being met.

It was there to help you with problems.

And as you grew older, your brain has learnt a complex range of triggers for your anger, and a complex range of anger responses for those triggers.

Your brain has automated those responses for you, just as it did with breathing, walking and talking.

But you are here for a reason.

Your automated responses are probably different to what you want.

Using Rapid Transformation Counselling therapy, we can quickly help you to retrain your automated anger response.

You can simply learn to be calm again.

Is Anger OK?

At the right place and the right time, anger may be important.

Appropriate levels of anger can:

• Let you know when something is wrong.
• Help you recognise unfair treatment.
• Help you stand up for yourself.
• Help you protect yourself and your loved ones.
• Provide you with energy and drive to improve situations.

You need to keep these responses.

When we meet, we will be focusing on anger that is disproportionate and out of control.

It’s easy to book an appointment. Simply use the form below.

7 Signs Of An Anger Problem

If you are looking here, there’s a good chance that you already know if anger is causing you a problem.

Common 7 common signs of anger problems include:

1. Sudden and explosive outbursts that may frighten or surprise people that are close to you.
2. Shouting.
3. Violent behaviors, including hitting or throwing things.
4. You may find those feelings difficult to control in the moment.
5. Sometimes people have feelings of guilt or shame about those moments of anger.
6. Road rage, and feeling really angry when driving.
7. Perhaps eating or drinking more, as a sign that your brain looks for ways to help.

There can be many reasons why you might find it difficult to control your anger. Much of that will have been learnt by your subconscious mind as you were growing up.

Tiredness, pain, stress, or long running niggles can all increase the frequency and scale of moments of anger.

But you can learn to take control of those feelings, so that you can decide if you want to display an angry response, or if you would prefer to choose another response.

We will focus on giving you the ability to rationally decide which response you want.

7 Dangerous Things That Anger does to the body

Those outbursts create a lot of physical changes within the body, which ironically can actually damage the body over time.

Common things that anger does to the body includes:

1. Increases heart rate, putting you at greater risk of a heart attack. Your risk of heart attack doubles for two hours after an outburst of anger.
2. Increased blood pressure, putting you at greater risk of a stroke. You are three times more likely to have a stroke for two hours after an outburst of anger.
3. Reduced immune system, making you more likely to get an illness.
4. Increased feelings of anxiety or depression to the stress chemicals.
5. Increased risk of damage to your lungs over time, due to the chemical response.
6. Muscle pains due to the tensions, including sore neck, shoulders, back, hips or head aches.
7. Increase risk of autoimmune issues, such as fibromyalgia.

By changing your anger response, you can change the impact it has on your body.

What Happens In Surrey Anger Management Counselling?

When you book your private Surrey Anger Management session with us, we will help to:

1. Identify your triggers.
2. Review how your brain is responding to those triggers.
3. Discuss how anger is affective your life and relationships.
4. Agree how you would prefer to respond.
5. Retrain your automated response with a more appropriate response.
6. Find tools to reduce the risk of future angry outbursts.

We won’t just be asking you about how anger makes you feel.

We won’t be making you punch pillows or hug trees.

We will be using advanced psychological techniques to help you change.